Silver Sparkles

I was a bit disheartened when a friend recently showed up with her hair dyed in a monotone, off black color to cover her silver hair. My first impression was that this color, which was too dark for her complexion, over-shadowed her sparkle. If you didn’t know, let me be the first to tell you, Silver Hair Sparkles!!!

Fashion Design by Greta Wallace of Simply Greta

But of course, every woman has the right to wear her hair the way she prefers. Many women believe that dying their hair will make them look younger. As a beauty expert who can’t help but notice a woman’s appearance, I have always countered that covering up your silver hair, doesn’t necessarily make you look younger; done improperly, it can actually create the opposite of what is actually desired.

And speaking of young, the young girls are stripping their dark hair and dying it silver these days; that’s the trend. Silver is the new black!!! And I’ve recently heard a couple of podcasts about white women getting on the natural hair bandwagon. Natural hair for them means being liberated from covering up their silver hair.  And doesn’t silver sound more appealing than gray?

If you prefer covering your silver hair, here are a few tips so that your hair doesn’t scream, “I’ve just dyed my hair to cover the gray.”   As we grow older, silver hair or lighter hair, softens the aging of our faces. So follow these tips.

Tip 1 – Use a color that is at least a shade or two lighter than your natural color. Whatever you do, don’t use black, which will give you a harsh look and will wash out your natural complexion, reflecting a dull hue in your skin tone.

Tip 2 – See a professional colorist who will know how to match your skin tone and offer you an array of hair colors to choose from. And though it may cost a little more, having highlights and low-lights will really give your hair more of a natural look, emulating the way natural hair color appears in varying shades. At Khamit Kinks Professional Colorist Taeisha Black is stellar at coloring hair. Book a consultation with her to discuss your options.

Tip 3 – Following your hair color process, make sure to have a deep conditioning treatment as hair coloring by its nature is very drying and strips the hair of its natural oils. You want to replace these oils by having hot oil treatments and  great conditioning treatment.

Tip 4 – And for those who are wearing your silver hair, use silver boosters to enhance and help your silver sparkle.

 

 

 

How To Make Your Hair Pop or Bounce!

Recently I’ve been receiving compliments on my hair from the most unexpected people. What’s the difference? I believe the warm seasons may have something to do with it. People are most apt to stop and take notice of things when it’s warm outside, things they could care less about when it’s cold. But the truth of the matter is, all year long, I’m consistent with my hair rituals and doing what is best for my hair. It’s causes my hair to pop and shine in every season. Below are the hair rituals that I live by.

First things first, hair cuts!  I keep to a strict schedule of getting my hair trimmed/cut every 8-12 weeks. This adds such vibrancy to the hair. With only healthy hair on your head, your hair is sure to bounce if it’s long and pop if it’s short.

Often when wearing short hair, it’s often assumed you do nothing to enhance your hair. This couldn’t be further from the  truth! When your hair is short like mine, friends and strangers alike may not realize that you’ve had a trim, they have no idea what’s giving your hair so much life. This is equally true of short natural hair, when you receive a real haircut, your hair will not only be more vibrant, it will also look an feel more lively and vibrant.

The second thing that I am diligent about is hydration. I make sure my hair experiences water everyday. I do this by allowing my hair to get wet when showering. When showering, my hair doesn’t get soaked (unless I intend to shampoo it) but it is lightly exposed to the water. If I’m taking a bath and not showering, then I hydrate by using a spray bottle to lightly spritz my hair.

The hydration that occurs from wetting the hair (and while it is still damp) makes it easier for any product to perform better on your hair, whether its an oil, cream or gel; it will allow the product to go beyond the surface of the hair and penetrate into the deeper levels. On a weekly basis I use our Luscious Curling Cream. Ahhh Curling Cream, it is to hair what butter is to a cake. It creates moistness, richness and shine. After shampoo and conditioning, applying Curling Cream is  a must. I love the way it defines my texture and my natural curl pattern. I shingle it through out my hair, and this causes my hair feel richer, thicker and more radiant.

For daily basis maintenance, I use our Leave-In-Conditioner. While it’s great to wet your hair on a daily basis to keep it hydrated, the water naturally evaporates. Using a Leave-In-Conditioner (especially one that is cream based) helps to extend the hydration throughout the day. But much like brushing your teeth, a Leave-In-Conditioner has to be applied daily.  The Leave-In- Conditioner is not needed on the same day that you apply the Curling Cream. Because the Curling Cream is rich and a little heavy, once a week application is sufficient.  Then use the Leave In Conditioner the following days to reactivate and daily hydrate.

I have always believed that one of the most attractive features of any hairstyle is a healthy hairline. I am a fierce protector of my hairline. Years of all kinds of braids, twists, Locs styles and extensions, and I have never lost any of the hair around my hairline. At Khamit Kinks, we are stickers about protecting our client’s hair. And if the hairline is healthy, it’s an indication, that the rest of the hair is strong and healthy.

One of my grooming practices I’ve never shared this publicly or privately is that… I groom my hairline! As a child coming up in the south, we called it taking care of your “baby hair” (showing my age here). Haha! Yes, I’ve been grooming my baby hair since I started doing my own hair as a tween; today it’s called edge control.  But back in the day, in High School, I would use the thick and pasty Nu-Nile. But today I use the light and gentle Soft Set Gel, to give my hairline a lovely, naturally framed look, by smoothing down the hair that frames my face, my baby hair. It’s subtle but it adds that extra something! I’m not trying to be like FKA twigs, you know, just a little something, something. Using natural, botanical based products with essential oils and vitamins that feed that hair is what we offer in our products.

That’s it! Those are my tricks to make short hair pop and shine and long hair bounce.  You too can receive plenty of compliments on your hair by following these rituals.

  1. Regular haircuts
  2. Lubricating the hair and scalp with natural oils
  3. Moisturizing with Curling Cream
  4. Hydrating with a Leave-In-Conditioner
  5. Using a Soft Set Get to hold the hairline or for any soft hold of the hair.

PS – Hair photo of Khamit Kinks client and dear friend, Nicole A. Taylor, the beautiful sister who inspired me to get the updated version of the Nola Darling hair cut.

 

The Hypnotic Linden Blossom

Just as the Summer Solstice began so did the gorgeous blossoming of the linden blossom tree and its intoxicating fragrance. Right next to my house stands a huge linden blossom tree and every summer it perfumes the entire block with its hypnotic honey and floral aroma. From the time you enter the block, you can’t help but notice it. It permeates the air giving one a feeling of having been transported somewhere far away, open and beautiful. But here it stands on this city block a gift to all who are within a sniffing radius.  The down side is, the fragrance only lasts a week or so.

Linden Blossom oil is a bespoke essence that is used in perfumery and high end beauty products. It is said to beautify the skin in the same way that rose oil does. The scent profile is soft and mild as an essential oil, much lighter than the aroma it emits from the tree. For a novice and professionals alike it may be difficult to distinguish linden blossom in a perfume, but it adds its own subtle beauty to any fragrance.

The aroma is so intoxicatingly beautiful, that I had to grab my step stool, my pruner and cut a branch and bring it in my home. To my delight the fragrance continued to perfume the air in my home for several days.  It’s so difficult for me to be in the gym when it’s beautiful outside so I began walking in Prospect Park again.  There are several linden blossom trees that are blooming on the walking, running,  biking route.  Each time I reached one, I had to just stop, inhale deeply, exhale, and repeat. I will be a launching a perfume this fall with linden blossom. So inhale deeply and stay tuned.

 

 

Mommy – Get Ready To Bloom!

There is no substitute for a mother’s love.  Some have been fortunate to have loving, supportive mothers.  Others lost their moms at a young age, some barely knew their moms or knew them not at all.

Mother’s Day, like many national holidays, can bring up a mixed bag of emotions.  As I wrestle with my mom’s latest illness, I realize the enormous love my mother has had for me and I for her, but I cannot discount the fact that mother/ daughter relationships can be fraught with complications.  In the end, love is the greatest healer.

serenity and yoga practicing at sunset, meditation

We all need to be mothered in one way or another.  One way to heal the mothering energy is to nurture ourselves.  When we nurture ourselves, it’s easier to nurture others  from a pure place. We bathe those in need with unconditional love.  This is the behavior of a healthy, mother energy.  If you’ve had a mom who has impacted your life in a most positive way, I know you count your blessings daily.  For those who have not had that kind of love, I think of you, especially on this occasion and send you Light and Love.  And for those who have recently lost their Mothers, I feel your pain more now than ever…  Mother’s Day can be a great time to put together a memory shrine for your mom no matter when she made her transition.

We have two botanical offerings to help invoke that nurturing energy, our Spiritual Spritzer called Nurturing and our Sea Scape Perfume.  Both are made with real jasmine essential oil and elements from the sea to calm and heal, not just for this special occasion, but for all year round.  Yemanja, Auset, Mother Mary, Privhti we call on you!

Happy Mother’s Day To All!

 

The Blossoming of Spring

When spring arrives we can’t help but feel the shift in energy from sleepy, hibernating winter to awakening and buoyant spring. We too must awaken like spring and blossom. It’s time to come out of our shells and share our brilliance like the sun, bloom like flowers, and sing from our hearts like our feathered friends.

Photo I took on the second day of spring

I observed in late winter how the bare trees seemed sublimely changed. From our vantage point near the ground, it appeared that nothing had changed, the trees were as stark as ever; but there was a difference. Due to the height of the limbs it was difficult to see, but I finally realized what I was observing were the buds that had sprouted on the bare limbs. It gave the trees a deeper dimension, more of a presence against the blue skies. They seemed more alive, vibrating.

I got up close and personal with a Cherry Blossom Tree

Once the buds opened and began to show their colors, we knew that spring had truly arrived. In NY, our state tree, the bright, yellow forsythias seem to trumpet the arrival of spring. The enchanting pinks of cherry blossoms, the deep fuchsia of the red bud trees seem to be courting us; colors observed by our eyes, whispered sweetness to our soul.  I love the color pink, and the soft pinks of my peonies had yet to bloom when I arrived home from Thailand. I was thrilled to be able to witness their soft, pinkness unfurling.

A red bud and a white blooming dogwood in Park Slope

Spring is a time for us to start showing our true colors, of beauty, love, wonder and adventure. It’s a time to take care of our soul’s needs. Sign up for that class, take a road trip, see a therapist, join a support group, change the hair, baby the body or get that new lip color or hair cut. We know very well what we need to be our lovely best. And if we don’t quite know, this is the perfect time to take the steps that will lead to being more aware and thereby able to find and eventually manifest all that we can be.

All photos by Anu Prestonia.