Thailand – Land of the Buddha

Back in October when I asked my friend Patricia Patton if I could join her on an excursion to Thailand, I really knew very little about Thailand, except that I’ve always enjoyed Thai massage and Thai food. This was going to be my gift to me for my 60th!  I had forgotten that the movie The King and I,  was based on a true story and in many ways influenced the future of Siam aka Thailand.  Nor did I realize that the food chain 7- Eleven was founded by a man from Thailand.  Those stores permeate the country, with over eight thousand 7-Elevens in Thailand, and over three thousand of those are located in Bangkok.

And I had no idea the level of devotion to the teachings of the Buddha, the Buddha consciousness that is palpable throughout Thailand. Despite the fact that most of the population are poor, people appear at peace and happy.  This may sound naive, but I do believe it’s the culture, tied in with the beliefs of the Buddha (regardless circumstances, happiness is available in every moment by controlling the mind) that makes for these easy going population. I’m not saying they’re happy to be poor, but the Thai people are just very pleasant to be around.

Patricia and I

I cannot deny what it requires of me mentally and physically to take these exceedingly long flights to far away lands. The whole mind game to endure an 18 hour flight to Thailand was substantial. There are some folks who travel around the globe on a regular basis and think nothing of the travel time. Many of them tell me they just sleep through it. I find it quite grueling and resort to all kinds of techniques, like talking to myself and practicing breathing exercises, watching lots of movies and reading. Still, I feel like a kid constantly trying not to ask myself “How much longer? Are we there yet?” And I was so thankful for the compression socks my sister loaned me. At the last minute I couldn’t find mine.  But won’t travel without them. What a life, legs, saver!!!

Typically, I was never one who could sleep on airplanes. But these days when I travel, I used my Spritzers and essential oil blends to calm and center myself. These Spritzers are my constant travel companions whether traveling locally in my car, on the subway or headed across the globe. Their botanical ingredients provide an easy access to natures healing powers.

Ancient ruins with countless statues like this of the Buddha – It was 105 degrees this day

It was incredibly hot when we arrived in Thailand.  We later found out that we arrived at the beginning of the Thai summer season. Ours would be the last tour of the season due to the extreme heat.  That first week the temperature ranged between 95-105 degrees. No wonder they have Night Markets, where mostly tourists shop at outdoor markets in the evenings when the temps have cooled down. One thing I did notice with all that heat, the little aches and pains I typically have were non-existent.  Now that I’m back home to cold, damp temps, those little annoyances have returned….We also happen to be in Thailand during the Thai New Year, April 13th-15th. Since it’s so hot during the New Year season, that it is celebrated with water.  And people literally douse each other with buckets of water, water guns, water hoses, it’s hilarious and fun.

In the big city of Bangkok, there seems to be no rhyme or reason as to how the city is laid out, if you can even call it that. It’s a mesh-mash of shanty type buildings thrown right in with 5 star hotels. Not my idea of beauty. Though there are many fabulous boutique hotels and other businesses that have all the bells and whistles. I found the city of Bangkok quite congested and unattractive along with the underlying smell of sewage; much like what I have experienced in Africa and the Caribbean.  These facts did not subtract from the overall experience of Thailand, which was just incredible. For my taste, the countryside is far more appealing with rice farms and lots of greenery, palm trees, coconut trees and all kinds of huge plants abound. We traveled to five cities but they were all up north, nowhere near the amazing beaches of the south in cities like Phuket, the place that introduced most of the world to the word tsunami.

Young novice monks on daily walk to receive offerings of food

What most amazed me was the devotion to the Buddha and his teachings. It’s in the air in the way that the people conduct themselves and interact with others. Imagine begin in a place where everyone who greets you brings their hands into prayer position and bows their head. This is everyone, from the children on up, the shop keepers, the concierge at the finest hotel restaurants, everyone greets you this way in Thailand. There’s something very sacred about that kind of interaction. It’s a cause for a mental pause, to really see the person you’re greeting and who is greeting you. People tend to be easy going and calm, gracious and patient, soft spoken and considerate. Drivers give each other the right of way, and there is no car horn blowing in Thailand. Drivers have the option to buy their cars with or without a horn, and most do not. Imagine that!

An artisan making a Buddha

There are incredible images of the Buddha, everywhere. There are 14 million people in the city of Bangkok alone and our tour guide said that there are least 3 Buddha statues to every one person. Thailand is an ancient country with statues of the Buddha that date back 700 years. There are ancient temples and ruins to the Buddha that both local people and travelers pay homage to daily. They bring offerings of money, bouquets of fresh cut flowers, garlands of flowers, jewelry, incense, they burn candles, genuflect and pray. The monks are given food daily by the people as a way of honoring those who take very seriously the teachings of the Buddha. All this to say, I was happily in a kind of, Buddha heaven until that last day. The many innumerable temples of all varying sizes, ages, details, are too many to list here.

The King graciously accepting a flower from an elder

Another point that stood out in a major way is the love that the Thai people have for their deceased king; this is evident everywhere. Thailand’s King Bhumibol Adulyadej, was the world’s longest-reigning monarch; he died on October 13th 2016, after 70 years as head of state.  All over the city, the country, in the homes and businesses are huge photos, posters, and elaborate water resistant framed images of this king, the late Rama the 9th.  Yet, he was hardly ever in the headlines.  Why, because he was a great man, an upright leader who cared.  Had he been a tyrant we would have heard much about him.

Seemingly he was a king of and for the people. Our guide told us of the many ways he regularly went into the proverbial trenches to support and empower the people, to be with them through natural disasters, to uplift the farmers, to teach the Cambodians other skills so that they gladly left the lucrative business of opium behind. His Highness passed last October, but if you were there now, you’d think he just died the other day as buildings, businesses and homes are draped in black and white mourning cloth. He loved his people and their love for him is still quite apparent.

Sitting here with young girls from the Karen Long Neck Tribe

Last but not least, this time around on Thailand, are of the beautiful indigenous people who live in the hills of Chiang Mai. There are 10 Hill Tribes and the one that is most well known are the Karen Long Neck Tribe. They are located up the hill from the elephant reserve in Chiang Mai.  Unfortunately, these tribes are becoming like most indigenous people around the planet, scarce. Their numbers are declining as the elders pass on and the young people succumb to the influence of western civilization via satellite television and tourists. There are seemingly more people who live in the 75 brownstones on my block, than who reside in those 10 tribes, put together. There didn’t appear to be even 100 people in those hills.

Up in the hills where nature and beauty prevails

I was heartbroken that this was not a part of our scheduled tour. And since our tour was so jammed packed, it was just a few of us who decided that on the last day in Thailand (when I was out of steam, time and money) we would get up early to make the journey to see the people of the Hill Tribes. They were the real deal, the ones with the ancient artistry, living the way of the ancient customs and traditions. This was for me the soul of Thailand. I would have gladly skipped spending one more day seeing yet three to five more temples and dozens more Buddha images to spend a whole day and even several days in the hills with the Hill Tribes.

A young Kayaw girl weaving on loom

These people of art and the land make their living selling their amazing artistry to tourist. I found myself feeling guilty for being there as a tourist, taking photos of them and with them. I felt like I needed to be doing more, giving more than just an exchange of money for their goods.   I’m still grappling with this and wondering what more can I do? But needless to say, despite all the many Buddhist temples and incredible statues of the Buddha, this 45 minute visit to see the people in the hills, was the highlight of my trip to Thailand. If I ever make it back to Thailand, this is where I will be spending my time and money.

This wonderful Akha elder had us all smiling

There’s so much more that we experienced and learned, like ride on the elephants (images of elephants are also quite prevalent in Thailand) learning how to cook Thai food, we learned how to make paper with botanical designs in the paper, and the list goes on and on. If you haven’t already visited, consider going to Thailand for a most unique and fortifying experience.

Maintain Your Inner Independence

Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never harm me. While many of us know this childhood jingle, we cannot all say it rings true 100% of the time. Words are very powerful and typically say more about the person speaking than the person listening. Words change lives, can ignite healing or provoke dis-ease, if they are abusive. This is true not necessarily about what is said, but how we handle or process what is said. However, no one should willingly expose themselves to demeaning or abusive communications from anyone under any circumstances.  No, not even from your employer.  That would be a sure sign that it’s time to move on.  But I digress.

I haven’t written on my blog post in over a month now and I finally had to admit to myself, what triggered this pause in posting was a comment made by a recipient of our newsletter. In addition to unsubscribing, she took the time to explain why. Her comments pierced me to the core. Due to the fact that we have so few readers who responds to the newsletter or blog posts in writing, it often feels like I’m just talking to myself. Is there anybody out there???  But while readers seldom leave written comments, many have come up to me in person to say they enjoy the newsletter and blog posts.

Recently a friend on Facebook mentioned her desire to give up sugar and I referred her to my blog post on the topic – Sugar – The Sweetest Poison of All. This brilliant woman who is a published author, accomplished intellectual, a professor at a prestigious university and wonderful person, immediately shared  with me that she loved my blog. And just those few words really meant so much to me.  In addition to my resolve on this matter, they gave me impetuous to say, please unsubscribe.  I only need to speak with those who are interested in what I’d like to share.

It can be very unsettling to allow ourselves to be so easily influenced, like a leaf in the wind. We all know better than that. We would be absolutely miserable if we attempted to live our lives allowing what others say to influence how we feel and what we do based on what they say; when they approve of us then we’re happy and if they don’t approve of us, then we’re miserable. The first rule is, don’t take it personally, as it relates to anyone, but particularly with strangers. This customer (and each recipient) has every right to unsubscribe and explain why they’re not interested in what I have to share. As the good book (I-Ching – Book of Changes) advises – maintain your inner independence – take not gain nor loss to heart.  These words sound so simple, but depending on what it is you’re trying to be centered about and not be an emotional mess, taking this stance can be exceedingly challenging.

This is one of the hallmarks of my spiritual journey,  mastering maintaining inner independence. So how I allowed this one comment to throw me so completely off my center, is something I dealt with in my meditation.  Inner independence is a way of saying, be centered.  Let not your emotions determine how you feel and function. In some instances that is easy.  In other instances it can be such a major cross roads, it can be the difference between living life fully or being totally miserable and spreading your misery to others.  So maintaining inner independence can be a very serious endeavor depending on what’s happening in your life. I have formulated a number of Spiritual Spritzers to address different challenges in life and one of them is called Centering.  It’s perfect to use for those time when you need to maintain your equilibrium. Formulated with both essential oils and tinctured herbs, it instills the energy of oneness, to be single minded, not torn or any matter.  And also it can be used to remind us that all of us are one, from the same one source, God, the Divine, by any name you choose to use.

With the help of my meditations, using the Spiritual Spritzer and the kind words of my friend Imani (a name that means, faith or trust) I have reclaimed my center and I’m back!  Please feel free to unsubscribe to this newsletter and or blog if it is not for you. I know how it is.  We have a limited amount of time and we should spend it doing what inspires us.  I realize that what I have to say is of value to someone and if I am able to encourage just one person to follow the road that will bring that person closer to a healthy, wholesome and or enlightening perspective or inspire them to take a closer look at the beauty they share with this world, then I’ve met my goal. That is my mission. Have a most beauty-filled day!

Sita Perfume

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My Sita Perfume is an exotic, spicy blend of some of the worlds most incredible essences.  Created as an ode to the Venusian Goddesses Het Heru and Oshun, it speaks of a time in a woman’s life when she is in her fullness.  Like a fully grown woman who has lived some life, Sita is layered, complex, beautiful  and mysterious.

Initially I had a difficult time finding a name that suited this perfume.  Many of the essences hail from India, such as sandalwood, coriander, cardamon and jasmine just to name a few.  I have long had an appreciation of Indian culture through my exposure to yoga when I was in my twenties.  So in the end the name Sita turned out to be the perfect moniker for this unique fragrance.  Sita is a woman who has finally found herself and realizes her worth.  Other essences include, Indonesian patchouli, a exceptional Bulgarian rose, coffee C2O, with sparkling pinks at the top, pink peppercorn and pink grapefruit.Continue Reading

Body Polish For Baby Soft Skin

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Did you know that the largest organ in the body is our skin, making up 16% of our body weight? This means that it is very special and should be treated with the utmost care. For example, the skin regulates body temperature, offers protection from the elements, and synthesizes chemicals. It’s no wonder many of us are attracted to soft and healthy skin; it beckons to be touched and caressed.

Anu Essentials Sugar Polish was created to exfoliate and soften the toughest skin. Made with Fair Trade organic sugar from Malawi in Southeast Africa, it’s a pure, wholesome treat. Our base oils are comprised of almond, jojoba, cocoanut, pomegranate, and vitamin E oils.  High grade essentials oils and resins are use to scent our Polishes and offer that aromatherapy experience. The sugar does the heavy lifting by removing dead skin cells and the luscious oils are added to soften and soothe the skin.Continue Reading

Honey Suckle Hair Oil – Saga

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To all our Honey Suckle Hair Oil lovers out there, I sincerely Thank you for your willingness to continue buying our Honeysuckle Oil when the fragrance was changed from a popular synthetic scent to an all natural, botanical based scent.  It is with much sadness that I must inform you that another change is upon the horizon.  Our botanical based Honey Suckle Hair Oil has been formulated by hand, by yours truly and I have delighted in combining oils to approximate the scent of the sweet and musky honeysuckle flower.Continue Reading